“I feel like my husband does not love me anymore!” It’s incredibly sad to hear a woman say this, particularly if that woman is still very much committed to her husband and the marriage. All marriages cycle through times where there’s an abundance of closeness while other times there’s distance and frustration. If you’re stuck too long in a difficult phase it’s understandable why you’d begin to feel as though your husband isn’t in love with you. It’s normal for any woman in this position to worry about the possibility of a divorce. If that’s not something that you can even bear to think about, it’s time to change your marriage. Yes, you and you alone, have the ability to shift your marriage from the unhappy and unfulfilling place it is to one of comfort, love and tenderness again.
Understanding How Different You and Your Husband Are
Before you jump to any conclusions about how your husband feels about you, it’s important to recognize the differences that exist between men and women. Men often withdraw into themselves when they feel stressed, worried or even just frustrated. In many instances, the wife is the closest person to the husband so she takes the brunt of his changing moods. She interprets the changes in him as being related to their marriage, even if he’s expressly explained that it’s not. This could very well be what is happening in your relationship now. If your husband is carrying too much stress, you may absorb that as being directed towards you.
That’s what it’s essential that you open up a dialogue with your spouse about what you’re feeling. I know that it can be hard to be reasonable and rational when you feel your marriage is slipping through your fingers, but talk to your husband as his life partner. Calmly explain that you’ve noticed some significant changes in his attitude and demeanour. If you can pinpoint certain instances, have that ready. You want to be direct but not overly emotional and you definitely don’t want to be accusatory in the least.
Why You Have to Express What You Feel to Your Husband
Many women feel a need to hide their feelings away when they first suspect that their husband is falling out of love. They do this because they don’t want to seem vulnerable or needy. They hold all their fear inside of themselves and it begins to manifest itself in very negative ways. Some examples are a loss of interest in work or friends or less patience with children. It’s important that you express what you’re feeling, even if it’s too a trusted friend. If that’s not an option, journal what you’re feeling. By having an outlet for those emotions you’ll find that you feel more centered and have a lot more clarity than you would otherwise.
You love your husband so it’s important that you fight for your marriage. That’s very different than fighting within your marriage. Don’t allow your husband to drag you into an argument just so he can let off some steam. Show that you’re the more mature partner by telling him that it’s best if you both cool down when there’s a conflict brewing. By taking this stance and essentially being the “grown up” you can guide your husband towards more mutual understanding and healing.
You can use very specific techniques to make your husband love you again. Any woman, regardless of how difficult her marriage is now, can have the connection she’s always wanted with her spouse.